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Naptime gamble

Since OJ was born, Gina Ford has been my gospel. I am not the “come what may” kind of mom, I’m just not. I need schedules, routines and predictability and Gina makes it all possible. In the beginning it can be pretty suffocating, but as the bebe gets older it gets better (as does most everything).

Lately, however, things have started being UNpredictable. OJ’s afternoon naptime is a GAMBLE. He may sleep, he may have a dance party. Sometimes it’s on the days he goes to school, sometimes it’s on the days he does not. But we are always home for “naptime”.

We have even turned up the volume since January–we added a third day of school, a weekly gymnastics class, and more recently, swimming lessons at the end of the day (woah, way out of the scheduled routine zone, but I am kind of LIKING it!). Nevertheless, he still has days when he does not take a nap. But we are always home for “naptime”.



I realized at about 11:40am (as we were both in our gymnastics clothes) that we totally could make Ash Wednesday mass and decided that instead of getting lunch together and being ready for a nap by 1:00pm, we were going to get ashes. 

Now I don’t want you to think I’m a regular churchgoer as of late as in like since we moved here (much less taking OJ with me), but perhaps because of that, or just having that healthy Catholic guilt, I took both of our asses to mass. 

Throwing new clothes on our bodies and snacks and activities in my MOM BAG, off we went. 

OJ seemed kind of excited that we were going to church! Chapel IS one of his favorite activities at school. 

As we were walking in to church, I explained he needed to be very quiet. He did well for most of mass, but really made the most of the very quiet moments for most of the back of the church to hear (because you know we were hiding out in the back). 

A few gems that elicited quite a response from many older women after mass: 

(I wasn’t singing) “Can you sing, Mom? Can you sing!”

(After getting ashes) “What you got, Mom? What’s THAT?” 

(During Liturgy of Eucharist, after the bells) “DING DING DING! That was ‘da BELLS.”

(On our way to communion) “We going to get more!” 

And as we got closer to the minister, I put him down to walk so I could have my hands, and after reaching over him standing in front of me and getting communion, he was stopped dead in his tracks. In awe. Immovable. 

A good lesson. 

By the time we got home, it was an hour past naptime. There was NO NAP to be had. He did lots of other things like wrangle out of his sleepsack and throw all of the blankets and his beloved tiger OUT of the crib. 

Enough of this–time to go to swimming. As we drove there, I looked back and saw THIS sleeping beauty…

So I really screwed up his nap but he really seemed to love mass, and all the old women seemed to love him. 

He did not love waking up or getting in the water, but just so you know, ashes don’t come off in the pool. 



If you know me, you know I love astrology–not because I follow Professor Trelawney but because it allows me to ascribe some qualities to people. For myself, I prefer the qualities of a LIBRA rather than a Scorpio (I can pick since my birthday is on the cusp).

I also love a good Meyers-Briggs. I don’t think my results have changed since the first time I took one in high school (on recommendation of The Sailor and Fluff) and it wouldn’t surprise anyone who know me and T that we only have on letter in common–JUDGING. I am ESFJ, he is INTJ.

In the course of conversation Friday night, a friend referenced the Gallup StrengthsFinder. I was intrigued. Fifteen dollars and 30 minutes later, here are my results.


My top5 are: Harmony, Empathy, Consistency, Restorative, Discipline.

Four of these things belong together–one of these things does not. The other four are strongly related to who I cannot resist being (and also strongly related to qualities of the Libra, I might add).

Harmony:People who are especially talented in the Harmony theme look for consensus. They don’t enjoy conflict; rather, they seek areas of agreement.” These people also have such an attuned sense of conflict, they often can sense when the proverbial shit is going to hit the fan before it does. With great power, comes great responsibility.

In the ideas for action, the report recommends,

“Sales roles based on ‘cold calls’ or roles in highly competitive workplaces, for example, will frustrate or upset you.”

HINDSIGHT IS A day late and a dollar short.

Empathy: “People who are especially talented in the Empathy theme can sense the feelings of other people by imagining themselves in others’ lives or others’ situations.” Who plays a game to enjoy, and not to win? Me, and not T.

Consistency: “People who are especially talented in the Consistency theme are keenly aware of the need to treat people the same. They try to treat everyone in the world with consistency by setting up clear rules and adhering to them.” This is me to a “tee” and I have to believe this is my most important strength. Repetitious procedures. Habits. Patterns. Familiar, predictable, and standardized procedures. Streamlined activities by daily, weekly, monthly or annual tasks. Deadlines anchor you. Yes, yes, a thousand times yes.

Restorative: the one strength with which I identify the least. “People who are especially talented in the Restorative theme are adept at dealing with problems. They are good at figuring out what is wrong and resolving it.” When trying something new, I am always willing to adopt a model of “continuous improvement”, even when I believe the current course of action is correct. As the action section recommends, “Give yourself a break. Your Restorative talents might lead you to be overly self-critical.” Truer words.

Discipline: Me–disciplined? As it turns out, yes. Disciplined is described as “enjoying routine and structure” and that is definitely a moi. 

I hope you can also benefit from identifying and learning about your own top five strengths. And then you will share them with me.